How To Be Alone

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

  1. Being alone works best if you are first with a lot of people, for a long period of time, with a lot of responsibility for these people
  2. Start to be alone by leaving all of these people behind
  3. Quit your job
  4. Kiss your niece and nephews goodbye
  5. Hug your siblings, your parents
  6. Break up with your man, if you have one
  7. Ideally you will be alone for a little while on a motorcycle
  8. After a while you will want to be with people 
  9. In a kind of anonymous capacity
  10. Find this in Mexico City, where you are in one of the most populous cities on earth
  11. Realize how wonderful this is after a side trip south, when you arrive back in the city after the oppressive emptiness of the open landscape and find a peace and comfort in the dense but remarkably uncrowded Mexico City 
  12. Feel lonely, at times aching with loneliness
  13. Abated here and there by conversation and afternoons, evenings spent in the company of other travelers
  14. Feel lonely still, at times aching with loneliness
  15. Think about this rationally
  16. Think about loneliness as lack of responsibility 
  17. Think of loneliness as no one requiring anything from you
  18. Think of aloneness as some kind of good and terrible gift, and flip your attention to the goodness of this gift
  19. Notice couples, kissing, everywhere, and think about this: you may not be drawing strength from an other, but you are also not required to give strength to an other
  20. Cherish this
  21. Because it will not last forever
  22. Notice parents with small children
  23. Notice the screaming children
  24. Notice your lack of screaming children
  25. Feel alone and wonderful and that incredible peace that comes with the lack of screaming children
  26. Be alone 


  1. Just moved from a big city on the ocean to a very small town in the mountain 2,600 miles away and started a new job. Your words found me in the right moment! Thank you! <3

    1. <3 So enjoyed reading your latest post about how you got to where you are now.


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